“Hey man! You have changed a lot.”

It’s been 18 years passed now to our last meet. Last evening, I met with one of my childhood close-friend.

We had a great dinner and have a lot of discussion on lot many topics.

We ended up saying each other, “Hey man! You have changed a lot.”



Later, I relaxed myself on bed and while going asleep, this sentence caught my attention. I went into deep thoughts over this ‘you have changed a lot’.

Really?

Is it like, we both are not on our expectations from each other?

Is it like, we are both expecting each other like that we were 18 years back?

For me, I am as it is since our last meet. I see myself nothing different than that of myself in childhood. And I am sure, he also thinks same about himself.

Then, what that exactly is, which made us to say each other “You have changed a lot”?



Actually, we are what we were. We carry ourselves as we were earlier.

What really change is age and the experience that comes with it.

As we grow up, we got to see every time a new world.

To that every new world, we had a new response based on our past experience.

This new response is nothing but our learnings.

No person gets the same learning from a situation as like another do.

So, every time, we learnt something new and that became part of what we are.

Every situation, every experience we had, taught us something new, something different which ultimately made our personality.



When we met after so many years, we counted our age, we counted the gap between us which widen over the period.

But, we forgot to count the gap between our experiences, our learnings, and so our personality.

Whoever you are, a lady or a gentleman, age really matters along with your learnings, isn’t it?



I went into deep sleep after a fruitful thought, ‘Actually, we both are not changed. What really changed is just the perception we had about receiving each other.’



- miPratik





(pre-posted 3rd July 2019 in LinkedIn articles)